Is there is war going between your heart and mind? It is the right time for you to find out whether your partner is the right one for you.

Most of us have relationships full of obstacles and ups and down. While talking about our relationship we are pretty unsure whether ours is an ideal one.

Well, there is no fool-proof litmus test to establish that your partner is just right for you; here are few important tips to help you find you find your true soul mate:

Top Signs of Having an Ideal Soul mate

1.  Being Together in Every Situation:

No matter how hard the circumstances become, no matter how rough life’s path become and no matter how critical crisis become, your partner or soul mate should stand by you.

A true soul mate loves you in all weathers.

F.J.Cummings has rightly said, “Love is shown in your deeds, not in your words.”

2.  You Feel Comfortable with Him/Her:

You have met your ideal soul mate if you feel completely at ease and yourself in his/her vicinity. A sense of acceptance is felt in each other’s company.

Someone has mentioned, “Real love makes you more of who you really are. Fake love intoxicates you and makes you less than you really are, impairs your consciousness. That’s their main differences.

3.  Explicit Conversation:

Conversation is extremely important for the sustenance of any relationship.

You should share your views and opinions with each other and proper reciprocation of thoughts should be made.

So the way you communicate with each other is an important marker of how strong your relationship is?

4.  No Relationship Anxiety

There should be no place for stress and anxiety in your relationship. Things should be smooth and devoid of any hurdled pathway.

Introspect your relationship and remove all elements of contradiction to make it hassle-free.

5.  Trust your Gut:

Just follow your inner feelings. Examine how you feel when he or she is around. Ponder and listen to your gut feeling and you will realize whether your partner is right for you or not.

6.  No Place for Drama:

Just be yourself and do not be dramatic in reacting to a situation.

If you disagree with anything, be bold enough to express your opinion instead of accepting wrong ideas and notions.

It is important to see how a couple reacts to an argument. There is no room for shouting and violence in a healthy relationship.  Your partner should patiently listen to your point of view.

7.  Compatibility:

It is the law of nature that opposites attract, but such attraction is short lived and fades with the passage of time. A viable and lasting requires compatibility.

You should common and compatible goals, priorities, and career targets to make your relationship work for both of you.

8.  Mutual Respect Is Important:

Mutual respect is the most important factor for the sustenance of any relationship and a couple’s relationship is no exception.

Respect and regard for each other’s sentiments and feelings are the cardinal points of your relationship. Make your relationship is not devoid of them.

In a nutshell, try to  be careful in choosing your life partner. Be thoughtful and follow your heart. Have a great and healthy relationship!

Love is a strong emotion that has both the spiritual and physical component.

It is that one feeling that bonds two different individuals into one single soul.

Mutual appreciation of each other’s sentiments and respecting other’s emotions are the vital prerequisites for a strong and viable relationship. The presence of love is mandatory for the sustenance and survival of any relationship.

Life is meaningless and prosaic without a soul mate. Your soul mate adds color and life to your existence. Your better half adores you, loves you unconditionally and makes you feel special!

How to be an ideal Soul mate

Love knows no conditions and rules. It requires compassion, complete devotion, ardent affection, mutual concern and care.

Give Unconditional Love:

An ideal soul mate loves you without any ‘ifs’ and ‘buts’. He loves you the way you are without imposing any conditions.

If you intend to be a true soul mate to your companion, give your love unconditionally.

Respect your Partner’s Feelings:

The second most important thing is to love and respect your partner’s feelings and sentiments. There might be occasions when you do not feel like going out but your companion wished to do so, respect her feelings and do not hesitate things even against your like. After all you love her. Isn’t it?

Spend Time Together:

Togetherness increases fondness for each other so spend time.  This makes you both feel special and will strengthen the mutual bonding and liking.

Trust and Belief:

Cultivate trust and belief in each other. Keep enough room and space while talking to your soul mate. Do not be judgmental and decisive.  Always keep your mind open to all plausible aspects while discussing a topic.

Express Your Love:

Be first to express your love for your beloved. Leave no occasion to show how you feel for your partner. It will make your relationship stronger and longer.

Encourage your Partner:

We all love to be admired and encouraged. So appreciate and encourage your partner in her endeavors. Boost her morale in every possible way. After all she belongs to you.

Finding a true soul mate is a tough task but not an impossible one.

Richard Bach has once said, “A soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise….When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soul mate is the one who makes life come to life.”

Make your world a happy place to live and remember the famous words- “Love is a dream that comes alive when we meet.”

The foundation of a strong and viable relationship rests on truth and fidelity. Breach of trust sabotages the relationship. You should be crystal clear and avoid any concealment of facts if you intend to nurture your relationship.

Lying is not confined to a particular sex. Both men and women lie at some point or the other.

Women usually lie to make others fell better while men lie to avoid a challenging predicament.

Lying should not be resorted to as it is bound to ruin things in the long run. Never take rescue of lying to please someone or give false accolades. Boyfriends are seen comparing their girls to beautiful actresses and making other false commitments. This is not good. Lying might rectify the situation temporarily but it is not a lasting option. So be genuine and true.

Here are listed some of the commonly spoken lies coming across in our routine lives:

1. Tried Calling You:

This is a classic example of lies. Men make wrong statements and point towards technical faults, busy network or the sort. They actually forget to call and take shelter of excuses and stupid alibis to correct and justify the situation.

2. You Are Not Fat: 

This is another pitiable white lie made my men in their efforts to be humble. You look great in that outfit. In reality the dress might be ill-fitting but they are so appreciative of the girl that they swear wrong.

3.  You Cook so Well:

Your girl is the worst cook in the world but you pretend to enjoy her cuisine so deliciously well. Do not make wrong praises.

4.  Caught in Traffic Jam:

Most of us have made this statement at some or the other point of time. This is a tricky statement as it carries the benefit of doubt for being true.

5.  Enjoy the Company of your Mom: 

This is a common statement made by men in attempts to impress their girl. The facts might not actually coincide with spoken words.

6.  Trust Me, I never Lie:

Men make this statement quite frequently. It becomes difficult to figure out when they are true and when they are lying. Such words make the girl enamored and charmed even blindfolds her in believing men completely.

7.  Just You. No Other Woman: 

Men often make commitments and vows to be involved with one girl. This is not true always. The statement like, ‘Not thinking about other women’ is surprisingly hard to believe.

The romantic involvements require compassion, honesty, truth and trust. Confide in each other and avoid mistrust from creeping in your relationship.

Someone has rightly said, “Lying is an addiction. Every addiction needs to get rid of and lying is no exception.”

Hans Nouwens has rightly said, “In true love the smallest distance is too great, and the greatest distance can be bridged.”

The cliché-“Distance makes the heart grow fonder”, concisely sums up the ecstasy, rapture and agony of long distance relationship.

Tips to Keep the Flame Ablaze:
1. Send the loving messages across to your beloved periodically and sporadically.
2. Remember long distance relationship rely on unconditional faith, trust and love.
3. Arrange frequent reunions to keep physical involvement in your relationship. This will bond your long distance relationship strongly.
4. Share your fears, apprehensions and hopes and persuade your partner for the same.
5. Send small gifts like flowers, card on occasions no matter how trivial or insignificant they are. This gesture is going to cheer and delight your partner.
6. Chat daily on pre-determined time. This act will keep you to look ahead to during the entire day.
7. Do something unique or unusual such as going to an unfamiliar destination. This will create an adventurous feeling and you will enjoy the act.

When your beloved is distances apart, these gestures will be helpful in creating a feeling of belongingness.
Keep the flames of love burning irrespective of the fact how difficult the commitment is?
Just keep in mind these golden tips to avoid mistrust and lack of commitment creeping into your relationship.

Love is a complicated yet tender emotion that binds two individuals togetherness. Soft words of love can mellow the hardest rock. Loves knows no barriers of religion, caste, creed, etc. It is a magic of one heart that cast spell over the other.
Here are listed some useful tips to say those magical and beautiful three words, “I Love Your”. Just trail down the list and choose cues on how to express your soft sentiments to your beloved.

1. Dance is the hidden language of the soul. Join a salsa dance class with her. On the final day flawlessly propose her by taking her in your arms and say the three magical words while whirling her. No way can she turn down such a beautiful offer.

2. Take her for a romantic bike ride. Give her the joy of life by taking her to a heart warming place and let the strains of joy mingle in your proposal under the infinite sky. Nothing better than nature helping you.

3. If he is an extrovert and loves listening to the radio then go public about your feelings and let the city hear you propose on the radio.

4. Take the proposal to her parents along with your parents. Be a man.

5. Send her flowers, a gift and a card expressing your feelings about her

6. Sing a song and propose her.

7. Cook at home instead of taking her out for a dinner. Let her feel the care and love you have for her and say it out finally with a dessert.

8. Skywriting can be of great help for you.

9. Remember the childhood treasure hunt? Its time to make it real. Leave clues for her at regular intervals and let her discover the treasure of your love.

10. Be short and sweet. Directly go and tell her that you love her. After all excess of anything is bad.

Whatever path you take if your feelings are true then heavens shall guide you.

How to Say I Love You in Different Languages
• Afrikaan – Ek is lief vir jou
• Albanian – te dua
• Arabic – Ana Ahebak / Ana Bahibak
• Armenian – yes kez shat em siroom
• Bosnian – Ja te volim (formally) or volim-te
• Bulgarian – Obicham te
• Burmese – chit pa de
• Cambodian – Bon sro lanh oon
• Croatian -LJUBim te
• Czech – miluji te
• Danish -Jeg elsker dig
• Dutch – Ik hou van jou
• English – I love you
• Estonian – Ma armastan sind / Mina armastan sind (formal)
• Filipino – Mahal ka ta
• Finnish – Minä rakastan sinua
• French – Je t’aime
• German – Ich liebe Dich
• Greek – S’agapw
• Greenlandic – Asavakit
• Hawaiian – Aloha wau ia ‘oe
• Hungarian – Szeretlek
• Icelandic – Eg elska thig
• Indonesian – Saya cinta padamu
• Italian – ti amo
• Indian – Mai tumase pyar karata hun (male to female) Mai tumase pyar karati hun (female to male)
• Irish – taim i’ ngra leat
• Japanese – Aishiteru Javanese Kulo tresno marang panjenengan (formal
• Korean – SA LANG HAE / Na No Sa Lan Hei
• Latin – Ego te amo
• Latvian – Es mîlu Tevi
• Lithuanian -As Myliu Tave
• Lebanese – Bahibak
• Macedonian – Te sakam
• Mandarin – Wo Ai Ni
• Norwegian -Jeg elsker deg
• Persian – Tora Doost Darem
• Polish – Kocham Cie
• Portuguese – Eu te amo (Brazilian)
• Romanian – Te iubesc
• Russian – Ya tebya liubliu

Plato says “at the touch of love everyone becomes a poet”. Truly the month of love is just about to begin and I’m sure all the love birds have scheduled their gifts and plans for the most romantic day of the year i.e. 14th February the Valentines day. If you are still one of those who are in a fix what to buy and what not to buy then this is surely going to help you.

Gifts for your “Eve”-

• Let her feel special- After Cook something special for her if you haven’t till date. Even a cup of coffee or tea right in the morning would do. If you are a good cook or any of your friends can help you with a special cuisine, nothing can be better than that.

• A special surprise- Needless to say that she is expecting a gift from you. But remember “the manner of giving is worth more than the gift”. Bring that poise, that grace. Right from the gift wrapping paper, to the venue of your dinner, even your tie or shirt everything should be filled with the colour of love. Let the theme be romantic or of her choice.

• Write a Personalized letter for your beloved- a letter in your own handwriting unfolding the 101 reasons why you love her so much. Take a perfumed glossy paper Make her feel at the top of the world. Make her feel special. Remember no money spend in gifts can buy such happiness as your own efforts will bring.

• Jewelry- Adorn her and personify her beauty with jewels.

• A romantic dinner- This time let it be on a cruise or on a special boat.

• An exciting trip- Let your Valentine feel special with a romantic week long exotic vacation at a new location, at least a place she’s never been before.

• Clothes- You’ve bought dresses for her a number of times but on this Valentines day give her a dress which gives her a new look altogether. Change her style, change her look.

• Do all her household errands- She has been the “lady in the house”, let her feel that she is the “queen of the house”. Complete all her household errands as soon as you can.

• Thank her- If you are unable to do all this just leave notes for her at all the places in the house telling her how important she is, what she means in your life?

• Love-“Love is, above all, the gift of oneself.”(Jean Anouilh) love her, take care of her, be there for her, leave a habit for her and see the difference.

Gifts for your “Adam”-

• A hug-“A hug is a great gift – one size fits all, and it’s easy to exchange”. Easy, simple, leave your shy aside, wear your smile and before he wishes you its better you surprise him this time.

• A monopoly game- be creative and let him play a creative monopoly game designed exclusively for him by you. Give him a small special gift every time he wins a round, reminding him and thanking him for all that he’s done for you.

• For gizmo lovers- “Men have a fetish for electronic gadgets” so if your man has reverence for such objects, gift him one.

• Collage-Celebrate the season of togetherness by gifting him a wall-sized collage filled with pictures- just two of you together.

• A rendezvous- Love is not about romance only, it is about spending time together with the loved one. Drive him to all the places, right from his school to college letting him meet his special friends with whom he’s grown up for “friendship too is an epitome of love”.

• An exotic alarm-clock- Be there with him all the time, every minute every second. Get the wallpaper of the clock printed with a sweet picture of the time spent together.

• Shoes-“a man’s character is known by his shoes.” Let his shoes be the one which describes him and suits his personality well.

• Clothing- A nice tie, matched with a beautiful shirt or simply a jeans and a t-shirt would say it all.

• Champagne-Men cannot do without hard drinks and a French champagne would definitely convey what you haven’t said so far.

• Printed personalized items-Right form his pillow to his towel, t-shirt, coffee mug be printed with beautiful quotes, pictures and surprise him every moment every second.

“It isn’t the size of the gift that matters, but the size of the heart that gives it”. let your valentine feel larger than life, make him/her feel special no matter what gift you choose for him/her. He/she must feel special to be a part of your life and connected to you.

“Love is a game in which one will always cheat.” The word cheating does not relate to exam papers only. Cheating in relationships is a common ordeal. Life would be easy and painless if such people are identified earlier. The most important point is how to check if your boyfriend is cheating on you?

Girls! please be on a high alert and take note of a few important changes:

• –pay attention to his computer activity i.e. he closes the window he is using the moment you approach or he changes the site he was working on etc.

• -plans are not made to be changed every time. If you find he is often changing pre scheduled plans, take a closer look at him.

• -if you find him uninterested in every talk of yours, if you feel he is not emotionally attached to you any more, its time you hire a detective.

• -if the amount of time you spent together is getting shorter each time, it means he is spending more fruitful time with someone else.

• -give him a surprise visit in his office or workplace; surely you will be able to locate him out of his regular place.

• -and then eyes say it all. If he looses his eye-contact, he tries to hide away a few important details, you can very well gauge what wrong ……

• -Anger, irritation- a sudden change in behaviour, without any reason says it all.

• -check his mobile secretly. Messages from unknown numbers or deletion of entire call history or if he is too glued to his cell phone; it’s high time to start attending such alarming calls.

• -is he keeping you away from his family? Then may be he is taking someone else closer to them.

• -above all the lord Almighty has gifted you with something called sixth sense and that is your instinct. For a woman let me tell you it never fails. So always let your instinct guide you for prevention is better than cure.

God forbid if such a tragic moment comes to your life, remember it’s not the end of the road. He was not your final destination. Learn from your experience and move on. At least he taught you how to judge the people. So trust those who deserve it. No amount of pain can take away your strength and happiness so be merry for life is a celebration.

A bigwig said “Marriages are made in heaven.” but if that was true why there is so much of hue and cry about mister and miss perfect? It needs a deep analysis. But if someone is really interested in finding out the most perfect one for himself or herself here are a few tips to follow-

“You don’t marry someone you can live with you marry the person you cannot live without”

So think twice whether the fellow loves you or you love him/her. What’s your reason of getting married?

1. Choose an individual who understands you, someone who would know everything even before your words explain. Remember more than half of your demands will be fulfilled even before you put them forth.

2. “Speech is silver but silence is gold” of course we don’t want you to marry a dumb fellow but yes a fellow of few words-polite, gentle, well-mannered and down to earth.

3. Body language reveals a lot about an individual’s character. Scrutinize his/her dealings carefully and probe if that suits you well. After all you need not be ashamed of such gestures later on..

4. Try viewing the relationship from a third person’s eye so as to check if there are any loopholes in the relationship. If any, rectify it to ensure a long lasting relationship.

5. Make sure you have such a strong eye contact with your partner that even the steam from boiling water doesn’t deter you from maintaining it i.e. be true in face of every eventuality.

6. It might have been proved scientifically that unlike poles attract but in reality if you deeply analyse then you always want to hang out or be with friends with a person whose mental level matches yours. So now you exactly know whom to choose.

7. Family lineage too plays a crucial role. Make sure you fit well in that family.

8. Do away with all your possessive attitude. It exhausts the sunshine in your life, bringing a fuming end to the relationship.

9. Follow the R-R mantra. Basis of each “Relation” is “Respect” for where there is respect there is care, where there is care there is affection and when there is affection there is eternal love

You don’t get to choose how you are going to die but you certainly can choose how you are going to live today. So make the best of your free will and make wise decisions cause getting into a relationship is a lifelong commitment involving lot of responsibility.

Today's Joke

Why hairs are white

 

KID: - Why some of your hair are

white dad?

 

DAD: – Every time a son make his dad

unhappy,

One of his father’s hair turns white…..

 

… … KID: - Now  I understand why

Grandpa’s hairs are all white..